12 Random Reasons as to Why/How 12 Years of Marriage Has Strengthened Me
Take note that I will not call my husband by his name, I will refer to him as Hubby, Husband, Bubby (nickname of baby and hubby mixed), and Baby.
Wow. Twelve...12...YEARS of marriage to my wonderful husband and I'm so much better for it. How? Let me count the ways..how about twelve ways?
- I bawl my eyes out over the health of another child with cancer and without question he takes my hand and immediately prays for that child.
- We may argue a lot about the little things but we are on the same page for all the big things in life. Of course, when we first married, everything became a big thing. Our youth was burdened with insecurities that we overcame through experience. I am extremely thankful that we have nothing to argue over, except for the things that don't really matter!
- Unless either one of state otherwise, we automatically assume that any plan made includes each other...and sometimes the kids ;-) Being each other's half to a whole allows us to truly function. I don't know how couples could make separate plans first and then talk to each other about when they can make time for one another or to even see each other at all. When making plans, Bubby and I assume that we are doing something together and adjust to plans for time that we are doing something separate. That's just how we work. I like being around my husband and for some reason he likes being around me.
- My husband knows the details of countless fictional books he has never read. I read at least a book a day and whether he likes it or not he listens to Melany's Cliff Notes a night. (As a fair exchange, I get to hear about history, politics, and hunting, whether I like it or not.)
- Taking compliments is not my strong suit. Coincidentally, Bubby's daily praises and endearments for me is a natural urgency he has been doing since he met me. I learn to take what he dishes out.
- We share our strengths to improve our individual weaknesses. For example, he shows me any important paperwork that he has written for my review and final approval. It makes me feel respected and revered for my mind. From my hubby, I come to rely on his strength of emotional stability. When I suffer from a bout of depression, I cannot trust my judgment but I trust his.
- Laughter... We love to laugh--at each other, at jokes, at situations, at life. Oh yeah~we actually get excited watching previews to movies that are potentially funny. Comedy clubs, Comedy Central, Jimmy Fallon or Jay Leno clips on YouTube, funnies on Pinterest...we are all over that! Above all, I especially enjoy the moments when no one understands why we are laughing and we get into such hysterical fits.
- With freshly brewed coffee, he makes me a cup-of-joe, just the way I like it. That should be reason enough as to why our marriage is strong. HAHA. At the risk of sounding like an alcoholic, I will admit that I originally wanted to state that I like that he pours me a glass of red wine whenever I want. Yep. My ideal man serves me coffee and wine. Don't judge!
- He talks about me to his friends. The biggest compliment to me, that I willingly take, is that he includes me in his discussions even when I am not there. I don't even ever have to wonder to know that he speaks with pride and with a good heart. It's a great feeling to have his friends and coworkers respect me because he is a husband that respects me.
- We keep each other informed throughout the day. I know that this activity is annoying or not possible for many couples but we do it without thought. Texting or calling is not work for us, it's good routine. I had learned the importance of supporting my husband through positive words and he learned how I valued time and assurance of his safety. We smile at the loving reminder of my original statement years ago, "The day I do not care where you are or when you come home, is the day that you should worry about our marriage."
- He encourages and attempts to fulfill the smallest and silliest of dreams. I had once wished to dance amongst the clouds. Thanks to him, he smiled and laughed as I danced wildly at the highest point of a volcano on Hawaii's Big Island. This coming February, we will see Les Miserables in Raleigh! Yes, my mighty hunter will join me in watching one of my favorite musicals!
- Last but not least--- I don't know how it is possible, yet he often sincerely tells me and fills my love tank when he says "I love you more with every moment." It's the same for me.
Happy Anniversary Baby~
and thank you Angels for supporting and believing us as a couple.
